When our friend is in a hole and we see them down there and want to help them – perhaps tell them how to get out, or throw a rope down, or tell them we’ll go get a ladder, or ask them why or how they got themselves into the hole in the first place – more often than not, all we’re doing is blocking the light they need to get out.
God has a plan for each of us. He knows where we are and knows how to get us from here to there. He knows what we need to hear, and how to say it so we’ll listen. Better to leave the opening free for God to shine down into the hole and light the way up and out.